Hamlet is driven by a meeting of Hamlets: the prince and his father’s ghost. The melancholy, rootless ghost of the murdered king beseeches his son to leave his companions and follow. In the slightly truncated archaic Elizabethan language, the line is then: ‘List, list, o list’ It’s a heartfelt plea.
It can be profoundly helpful to have someone do nothing but listen: be attentive in an active, focused way. I am new to therapy and hadn’t appreciated the simple, significant benefit of someone doing this. They absorb, they bear witness to my words, no matter how disjointed or shapeless. Offering no more than a gentle hand – a small question, or a suggested interpretation, which reflects my incoherence back with a flattering suggestion of clearer self-expression, putting it better than I was able to manage for myself. Friends do this as well, of course, but more reciprocally. The particular luxury of therapy is the imbalance. It really is ‘all about me’.
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